But it turn out that a few simple behavior and attitude changes can.
Eric Barker just wrote a great post titled 'Here are the things that are proven to make your happier". I highly recommend reading his full post on happiness, but here are the 11 tips that he explains in greater detail:
- Practice Gratitude | Every day, write down things you are grateful for
- Do What You Are Good At | Use your signature strengths as much as possible. This is why starving artists are happier in their jobs.
- Spend As Much Time As Possible With People You Like | Share the highlights of your day with your friends, and do it as much as possible. You WILL regret not doing so
- Many Things Are Better Than Money | Wanting money leads to unhappiness. The happiest people make 50-75k per year.
- Give | 'Tis better to give than to receive. Volunteering turns out to be the most selfless way to be selfish.
- Savor Time and Reality | Focusing on enjoying the limited time we have on this earth is happy practice.
- Strive | Set ambitious goals and strive. You are happier when you are busy and mastering skills increases long term happiness.
- Be Optimistic | Yup, keep dreaming. "Thinking happy thoughts, giving hugs and smiling sound like unscientific hippie silliness but they all work"
- Sleep and Eat | Being tired and hungry makes you unhappier.
- Frequency Beats Intensity | Stop thinking about how to reduce bad, and instead, increase the good. Specifically focus on little daily pieces. Happiest people have little joys everyday. That big vacation or promotion won't make you happy. Seeing friends everyday will.
- Avoid Life's Most Common Regrets | And don't worry about potential regret at all, it's way worse than you think. Here are the most common regrets:
1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn't work so hard.
3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
More more details on each point, I highly recommend you read the full post here.
And quick - what is one thing you can do today to start being happier? I'd love to hear about it in a comment below...